# Romance and Sacrifice Plots

> Structure love stories, taboo romances and sacrificial choices

Explains how to build love stories with obstacles and believable pairings, forbidden love driven by social taboo, and sacrifice plots at different levels (for duty, for love, for principle). Use when plotting romance or emotionally weighted drama.

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# Love, Forbidden Love and Sacrifice Plots

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## Choosing the love-plot type
- Love needs "Boy meets girl, BUT…". The "but" (the obstacle) is the story, and it can be social, circumstantial, comic or tragic. Either lover can be the active one, regardless of sex.
- Forbidden love: the obstacle is a social taboo (race, rank, faith, adultery, incest, age, homosexuality). The lovers usually pay with their lives.
- Non-taboo love: the obstacle is misunderstanding, mistaken identity, a gimmick (a ghost, a mermaid), illness, or Fate. These lovers have a decent chance of winning.
- Obstacles can be arbitrary (car crash, disease, a bureaucratic error). What matters is whether the lovers can clear the hurdles.
- Falling-out-of-love variant: the story is about the end of a relationship and ends in resignation to perpetual warfare, divorce, or death. The emotional focus is love/hate. Study Strindberg's *The Dance of Death*, Albee's *Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?*, and Simenon's *The Cat*.

## Love plot: three dramatic phases (lovers separated, then reunited)
- Phase 1, Lovers found: establish the relationship and end with them deeply in love and committed (marriage, troth, or a symbol). Near the end of the phase, something separates them.
- Phase 1 separation can come from an antagonist (kidnapping, a parent, an ex) or from circumstance/Fate (war, illness, injury).
- Phase 2, Lovers split: at least one lover tries to find, rescue, or reunite with the other. The other waits passively or actively resists, for example by self-pity or telling the partner to leave.
- Phase 2 is setbacks: "one step forward, two steps back." The active lover wins only minor victories.
- Apply the Rule of Three: the first two attempts fail and the third succeeds. The first attempt is almost always thwarted.
- Phase 3, Lovers reunited: the active lover finds an opening, the obvious route rarely works, and the antagonist or preventing force is overcome. The reunion restores the intensity of Phase 1, and the tested love is stronger.
- This structure applies only to the "found, then separated" plot. Other love plots need their own phase sets, so adapt.

## Love plot: characters
- One lover is the active seeker who does most of the action; the other is the passive "victim" whose actions are secondary.
- Make the lovers ill-suited in some way (class, physical inequality, opposites).
- Love is a character plot. Chemistry between the lovers carries it more than clever plot turns do. Without convincing, unique lovers the story falls flat.
- Avoid generic, stereotypical lovers. Make characters and circumstances specific, and feel deeply for them or the reader won't.
- Test the lovers individually and collectively until they deserve the love: "Love untested is not true love." Love is earned, not a gift.
- Develop the full range of feelings (fear, loathing, attraction, disappointment, reunion, consummation), not just attraction.

## Formula romance vs. literary love story
- Category romance publishers have strict do's and don'ts and require characters to conform to type. If writing for that market, learn the house guidelines first.
- Type characters work through reader identification: generic names, generic places, no distinguishing marks. The reader fills in the blank faces.
- To write unique lovers, delve into the psychology of both people and the love itself.
- Models of enduring love tragedy: *Adam Bede*, *Jude the Obscure*. Contrast the shallow *Love Story*.

## Sentiment vs. sentimentality
- Sentimentality borrows prepackaged emotion from stock characters and events and makes the reader do the work. It is subjective: it writes about the subject (love, motherhood).
- Sentiment is earned from specific people, places and objects in a concrete situation, so it is objective. Compare Spender's "To My Daughter" (the finger-ring image) with Guest's "Sue's Got a Baby" (vague clichés).
- Sentimentality is any emotion exaggerated beyond what the context supports. Show the love, don't just talk about it.
- Use sentimentality knowingly for formula romance or melodrama. For a one-of-a-kind story, use sentiment only.

## Endings
- Don't force a happy ending on a story that hasn't earned one. Audiences reject it (Kipling's *The Light That Failed*, Shaw's *Pygmalion*, and the resulting *My Fair Lady*).
- Conversely, commercial film and category romance expect happy endings.
- Serious love dramas often end with a lover's death (*Anna Karenina*, *Madame Bovary*, Heloise and Abelard, Italian tragic opera). Comedies let the lovers ride off together.
- Resurrecting a dead lover rarely works in story. Orpheus fails by looking back too soon.

## Forbidden love: types and roles
- Adultery is the most common type, with a fixed triangle of wife, husband and lover. The adulterer may be protagonist or antagonist, and so may the betrayed spouse (who often seeks revenge).
- Adultery plot can reverse into murder of the spouse (*The Postman Always Rings Twice*, *Diabolique*). It can also be played as comic cuckold farce (fabliaux, Chaucer's "Miller's Tale").
- Incest is treated as the darkest taboo and is almost never comic (Oedipus, *The Sound and the Fury*).
- Homosexual love has traditionally been written as tragedy, with death or disease symbolism (*Death in Venice*).
- Other taboos: feuding families (*Romeo and Juliet*), class and beauty gaps (*The Hunchback of Notre Dame*), and age (*Harold and Maude*).
- Society always pushes back, either by disapproval or by direct action. Secret affairs are almost always found out.

## Forbidden love: three dramatic phases
- Phase 1: define the relationship in its social context. Ask what taboo is broken, how the lovers handle it, how the people around them handle it, and whether the lovers are moonstruck or realistic about the affair.
- Phase 2: take the lovers into the heart of the relationship. It often starts idyllic, but plant the seeds of destruction by mid-phase.
- Phase 2, second half: the relationship may decline as illusion shatters (*Bovary*, *Karenina*) and social and psychological reality bites. A naive lover may not fear consequences while a worldly one does.
- Phase 3: the lovers pay their "overdue bill" to society and all the moral scores are settled. The usual outcome is separation by death, force, or desertion.
- The survivor may keep loving (Quasimodo, Hester Prynne, Harold) or sink into despair. "Society never loses."
- A modern alternative is to let the relationship be affirmed (*Harold and Maude*): love heals, society loses that round, and a tragic death can still be a triumphant self-determined act.
- Imply backstory economically. A single image (Maude's concentration-camp tattoo) can replace a speech.

## Sacrifice plot: core design
- The character gives up something costly for a higher ideal (love, honor, justice, humanity, family). Meaningful sacrifice is costly sacrifice, and a rich person's easy donation is not one.
- Give the protagonist a real moral dilemma with no easy solution, and let events force the decision.
- The protagonist should transform from a lower moral state to a higher one. Examples: Sydney Carton, Terry Malloy, Norma Rae, Rick Blaine.
- Offer the low road (run, play safe) against the high road (costly). The character should balk at first. Sacrifice is never easy.
- Instant, intuitive sacrifices, such as stepping in front of a bullet, make a nice twist. The internal struggle is what interests readers more.
- Sacrifice can mean giving up honor for love (Amy Kane in *High Noon* abandons her pacifism), or a code of honor for the sake of others.
- Sacrifice is guided by the superego against the id (devil and angel on the shoulders). Make the pull of self-preservation real.
- Keep the outcome in doubt. People rationalize, so the reader should not be sure the protagonist will do the right thing, though the story must not be obvious.
- Play for big stakes: at least one person's fate (literal or psychological) must hang in the balance. Trivial events and people make trivial stories.

## Sacrifice plot: character foundation
- Character is the foundation, and the sacrifice is a manifestation of character, so it is secondary to it. Events should reflect and test the main character.
- Establish the character's past and motives early so the change is believable. A flashback is a good tool (Rick's Paris backstory). Without it, the internal conflict is not understood.
- A selfish or hardened character makes the transformation more worth following. Seed latent principles through earlier small actions that contradict their stated cynicism.
- You cannot turn a character 180 degrees with one event. Show the path from point A to point Z, and make motivation clear.
- Show the line of action through the line of thought. Don't pull rabbits out of a hat.
- A character who is already idealistic makes sacrifice easy, unless the sacrifice violates those ideals.

## Sacrifice plot: setting
- Limit geographic space to raise tension: make the setting claustrophobic, block the exits, and keep protagonist and antagonist within arm's length (all of *Casablanca* happens in Rick's café, which serves as a microcosm of the war).
- Separating the adversaries across town dilutes tension. Exotic flavor doesn't require many locations.

## Sacrifice plot: three dramatic phases
- Phase 1: establish the character, his hidden past, and the foundation of principles (see above).
- Phase 2: confront the character with a moral dilemma and show his motives. The character may try the easy way first, and the stakes are raised.
- Phase 3: focus on the payment the character must make and the moment of truth. Sacrifice often means the "best" thing, not just the right thing.
- Phase 3 must cover two things: the sacrifice's effect on the sacrificer, and its effect on the other characters. Readers also want to know whether the sacrifice achieved its intended result, and if not, why.
- Phase 3 is emotional. Avoid sentimentality and melodrama, and underplay rather than overplay the scene.
- Don't make the character a saint. Let the reader judge the sacrifice's value.

## Quick checklist
- **Love:** a major obstacle, ill-suited lovers, a thwarted first attempt (Rule of Three), an active seeker, an earned ending (not necessarily happy), unique characters, full emotional range, sentiment over sentimentality, and lovers tested until deserving.
- **Forbidden love:** the social force against the lovers, defiance with disastrous results, the adulterer as protagonist or antagonist, the taboo defined in Phase 1, pressure in Phase 2, and the moral scores settled in Phase 3.
- **Sacrifice:** high personal cost, transformation, events forcing the decision, a character foundation, clear motivation, action shown through thought, and a strong central moral dilemma.