# Memoir Opening Hooks

> Open your memoir so readers can't put it down

Explains ways to craft the first pages of a memoir to capture the reader and set up the story's question. Use when drafting or fixing a memoir's opening.

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## Skill

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# Hooking the reader in a memoir opening

**Rule for using this skill:** These tips add specialist guidance to your answer. They do not replace it. Always give your full general answer on memoir openings, structure, voice and craft, and work these tips in where they apply.

## Core hook principle
- Hook readers by revealing the conflicts in your life and how you responded to them.
- Strongest form: present a dilemma, choice, problem, or trauma, then show how you found resources within yourself to resolve it.
- Keep reflection and displays of new maturity or wisdom for later in the memoir. The opening should be conflict and action.
- Your reactions are the center of the story. It is about growth and transformation as you overcome hurdles and reach goals.
- Unpredictable circumstances work well: show how you responded to the surprise.
- Dramatic lives can sell, but the drama still has to be written well.

## Include flaws and failures
- Do not write only about successes. Readers take comfort in knowing the narrator also messed up, struggled, and was disappointed.
- Struggle endears readers to you. A sustained crisis is what keeps them reading.

## Finding the struggle to open with
1. List the struggles you overcame on the way to where you are today.
2. Answer these questions across all facets of your life:
   - How did I grow up to become the person I am?
   - What obstacles did I overcome?
   - What struggles did I have?
3. Choose one or two struggles to write about at length.
4. Describe the full situation and its circumstances.

## Make yourself the hero
Answer these in the draft:
- What actions did you take to get what you want?
- How did you react to each obstacle?
- What risks did you take to reach your goal?
- Your actions should show urgency and show you were at risk of not getting what you wanted.

## Internal obstacles
- Definition: an obstacle that begins in your mind, as attitudes or habits that block the goal.
- Examples:
  - Doubting you deserve the goal.
  - Fearing failure so much you would rather not try.
  - Overspending.
  - Habitually rebelling against authority.
- An internal obstacle also arises when the goal requires something that conflicts with your values. Example: a long-held value of privacy versus needing to share personal information on Facebook or LinkedIn.
- That conflict may stall you or cause extreme anxiety. How you resolved it is the story readers want.

## Family-of-origin material
- Values and internal obstacles often come from parents, by observation or genetics.
- Recall your parents' mannerisms, favorite activities, foods, music, and ideas. Jot them down and use them in this assignment or a later one.
- Consider telling readers how your obstacles are similar to and different from your parents'.

## External obstacles
- Definition: obstacles from the outside world, with circumstances beyond your control. Examples: job loss, super storm, a family member's death, war, illness.
- Write about both internal and external obstacles. Readers are interested in and surprised by what you overcame.
- An external obstacle (e.g., moving to another country) may come with or without an internal one. Note which you did or did not face.

## Pattern from the sample passages
- Name the struggle plainly, then say why it was hard (the internal belief, usually taught by family).
- Include a concrete fear or feeling. Example: fearing customers would laugh at you for charging a high price.
- Link to the present-day consequence if it persists.
- Where possible, show a specific, vivid action taken to solve the problem. Example: buying a set of 100 nursery-rhyme CDs and listening in the car, the kitchen, on walks, and at bedtime.
- Show the cost or courage involved, such as working two jobs for tuition or leaving a familiar neighborhood.

## Audience and tone
- The public reads if the story exemplifies a life lesson that resonates.
- Family and friends read anything, especially if they appear in it.
- All readers respond to honest portrayal, personal emotional responses, and a unique writing style. These supply the drama.
- Write dramatically with vivid action, but everything must be believable.

## Clear communication: commas
Commas prevent misreadings. Check openings for these:
- Direct address needs commas: "We're going to eat, Ben, before the soccer game" (invitation) versus "eat Ben" (Ben is lunch).
- Quotation interruptions change meaning: "Hannah," says Alyssa, "is the cutest girl" (Hannah is cutest) versus Hannah says Alyssa is the cutest (Alyssa is).
- Comma placement changes who needs whom: "Cindy, without her Don, is crazy" (Cindy needs Don) versus "Cindy, without her, Don is crazy" (Don needs Cindy).
- A comma before a trailing adverb changes the meaning: "The school term ended sadly" (something tragic happened) versus "ended, sadly" (it is sad that term is over).
- Attribution: "Say no to drugs, from the association of high school principals" (the principals are not the dealers).